Tell us more about your „public restroom“ phase. What exactly did you do? Well, after a long and steady relationship that was heading nowhere in particular I broke up with my boyfriend and slowly started to rediscover the possibilities of being single at 18 or 19 years of age. You could say that I went through a phase of unprecedented hornyness then. What I didn’t want to do at all was date. I wanted to suck dick instead of going out.

I wanted sex without the complications of a relationship. I noticed recurring fantasies of oral sex with people I’d just met and pictured myself having to swallow semen from perfect strangers. Well, those fantasies quickly turned into reality. I briefly considered the possibility of asking for money, but as soon as I pictured myself as a „call girl“ the need and the arousal vanished. My first target location was university, or university restrooms to be precise. So I snuck into men’s rooms and wrote little notes which I slid underneath the stall partitions for the guys next door to read. The notes said that I was a girl who’d like to suck cock, no strings attached. I wasn’t exactly choosy and I must have sucked at least a hundred different cocks, maybe more. I definitely lost count.

The first three guys or so wore rubbers, then I just asked them not to use them, if they didn’t mind. Hardly anyone complained. I just found it too boring to suck on a condom. I started to make myself swallow and that finally gave me the ultimate kick I was looking for. I did have intercourse now and then, but always „safe“. By intercourse I mean anal sex. Don’t ask me why, but I somehow needed it to be „harder“ or more „difficult“ to get the most out of it. Vaginal sex alone just didn’t do it for me.

I usually went back home afterwards wondering why on earth that self-imposed degradation (swallowing, anal instead of regular intercourse) made me feel so damn good. The thing is, I never got abused, I had a fantastic childhood, protected and loving, and even my sexual partners up to that point were gentle and caring. Don’t get me wrong I love how my own sexuality changed and evolved over the years and to this day I have very fond memories of that part of my adolescence.

I’m just glad I didn’t catch anything from all that swallowing and that no one ever took advantage of me. It was all consensual. Nobody ever forced me to do anything I didn’t want to do. There may have been a couple of gay guys who got seriously pissed at me for stealing the show and decimating the number of available hetero cocks at uni. Sorry guys, didn’t do it on purpose

You say you like swallowing large quantities of semen, what’s your opinion on Safe Sex?
I haven’t had unprotected sex with absolute strangers in about 5 years now. I now only do “unsafe” sex with people I already know (well). I once went through a phase in which I hung out at various public restrooms giving unprotected blowjobs and doing generally riskier stuff - swallowing, anal, you name it. But after many a sleepless night and a couple of nerve-racking health screenings I finally adjusted my sexual way of life. I’m happy to say that I’m still absolutely healthy and I no longer stupidly fool around. I must admit though that I had and still have a big aversion to condoms. I just hate having a rubber in my mouth and even during vaginal intercourse (or anal for that matter) I consider the things a total turn-off. During the public restroom phase I mentioned before I had vaginal and anal intercourse with total strangers but to my credit I can say that the fucking was always „safe“. Thankfully I wasn’t THAT stupid.

There will be a more in-depth Q&A post addressing the “Public Restroom” phase. Keep your eyes peeled, it’s quite the story…

Do you consider yourself to be a „typical“ porn star?
Short answer: NO. - Ok, yes, I did get butt-fucked for cash and yes, I didn’t present myself as a cum slut to the entire world just because I was such an outgoing person. I admit it; it made me quite a bit of money when I got started. But, and that’s a big BUT, I had a lot of fun doing it and I was enjoying myself all the way. I wouldn’t want to miss that experience for anything in the world. The last couple of years were just great. One thing I really tried to avoid was ending up in the porn „industry“. All of my photos and videos were shot by either boyfriends or sex-partners. I’ve never done any gangbangs, mostly for budgetary and health reasons. It’s just a lot more difficult than you’d think. The logistics behind that kind of porn (health screenings etc.) are quite daunting. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a huge fan of extreme gangbang content, like GGG for example, but I never wanted to work in a big budget studio environment.

“Extreme” ass to mouth pornographic videos
Again, a quote from Wikipedia: In a rare and very extreme form of ass to mouth found in some fetish themed or scatologically themed heterosexual pornographic videos, the woman does not undergo an enema or otherwise clean her rectum prior to anal sex. As a result of this, the man’s penis is visibly smeared with her fecal matter when she takes it into her mouth. While this practice exists inside of pornographic videos, it is almost unheard of outside of this particular context. - See, that’s where I disagree.

Let me tell you how my first voluntary ATM experience happened (You could argue that this was my second ATM experience since I’d already had a less erotic experience of a similar nature before. See upcoming articles). Me and my boyfriend had anal sex, in bed, lights out, nothing fancy. So he pounds my ass for a couple of minutes. Usually when we have “regularâ€? intercourse he just isn’t satisfied with just fucking my pussy so every other minute he pretty much sits on my chest or kneels beside me and stuffs his cock in my mouth. Not only have I always been ok with that but I also enjoy the variation. And I should add it’s not disruptive to my orgasmic buildup (or whatever you wanna call it) he always gets his timing right and I can’t complain about a lack of orgasms. Anyway, so he’s doing my ass and just as usual he pulls out and comes up to my face. There’s this brief moment of hesitation and I remember him realizing that this is “differentâ€? so he mumbles something about a quick timeout so he can go clean up. I can only guess at what went on in my head and I suppose sleepiness and impatience did play a role but I kinda said, you know what, I really don’t care it’s not that big of a deal.

I mentioned already that the lights were off so there wasn’t anything disgusting for me to see so I started sucking him. I’m sure I worried a little about the possibility of a bad taste first but there couldn’t have been anything solid on his dick (sorry if this sounds gross), just natural lubricants, like spit, semen, pussy juice. After one or two strokes I couldn’t tell the difference anymore. The rush of having crossed another taboo border kicked in immediately and it was an amazing and rewarding experience for both of us. From then on he pretty much changed his butt fucking technique to regular ATM, or in other words he did the same thing during anal sex as with regular vaginal intercourse. Back and forth, whenever he felt like it.

He was a little shy at the beginning, I could tell, and I guess he might have been a little afraid of me changing my mind and giving him the dreaded “no�. I never did. I have to say that to this day he’s always (secretly) checked his dick before sticking it in my mouth since he and I have both seen how fecal matter can get stuck right at the base of the penis’ head. In that case he either wipes it off with a tissue or heads for the bathroom before he makes me suck it. I should add that I haven’t once gotten sick (nauseated) or sick (infected). Well, that’s my story. I guess “good clean fun� doesn’t apply this time. Let’s just call it good fun then.

Postscript – Urinary Tract Infections
Actually I should have added this piece of information to all the anal-sex related articles I wrote. The following info is not specifically relevant to ATM: Bacteria found in the rectum, “bowel bacteria,� have been found to cause UTIs when entered into the urethra. This transmission of the bacteria into a man’s urethra can result from unprotected anal sex. Bacteria can also be transmitted into a woman’s urethra from vaginal sex following anal sex (which is generally a bad idea without prior disinfection). This can occur while using a condom as well as when not using one, because the bacteria may be transmitted on the condom.
This info is not cause for alarm, but it should be kept in mind. I for one am sure that the UTIs I’ve experienced were unrelated to anal intercourse. Also my boyfriend never had any urinary tract infections as a result of anal sex. Actually he never had one at all, the lucky bastard.

I always planned on writing are more in-depth guide on Ass-to-Mouth sex. Since I’m not an expert on the topic but basically just a fan of the actual practice I decided to do some quick research on the web first. To my own great surprise I stumbled across a nice entry in Wikipedia (you know, the online dictionary that can be edited by anyone). I think the analysis is quite good and the information given is accurate for the most part. There are some points I don’t buy or disagree with and so what you’re about to read is an edited version of the Wikipedia entry. I will be adding my own opinions (lots of them) wherever appropriate to give the whole article a less clinical and more personal feel. We’re not scientists here trying to dissect some strange social behavior but regular guys and girls who actually might want to try the stuff being discussed. So let’s get started with the basics:

Introduction
“Ass to mouthâ€? is a colloquial term, in sexology and pornography, for the removal of the penis or another object from the passive partner’s anus followed by the immediate insertion of the penis or object into the passive partner’s, or another partner’s mouth. One example that comes to my mind are some of the Rocco Siffredi videos in which there are two women involved, one of them gets butt-fucked and the other girl is just waiting with her head between the top girls legs (right below her pussy and ass) so that the guy can alternate between asshole and mouth. This is certainly not the “classicâ€? ass-to-mouth setup since it requires an additional passive participant. Most of us are just regular couples so we have to make do with only one mouth or ass or cock. Ass-to-Mouth is also known as A2M or ATM for short. Wikipedia states and I quote that “Ass to mouth generally excludes cleaning the penis or other object after its removal from the anus but before its imposition in the mouth.â€? which in my opinion is just NOT true. It’s especially untrue for 99% of the pornography you can buy off the shelf at an adult store. I know for a fact that these porn models not only make good use of enemas but also rinse with antibacterial solutions. Then and only then will they go on set too shoot ATM or three-way ATM stuff. I’m also quite convinced that antibacterial cleansing is common practice even before “standardâ€? anal fucking scenes, let alone ATM.

Health risks
Due to the presence of bacteria in the anus (rectum), ATM is inherently (potentially) risky from a health standpoint. While no physician will declare “ass to mouth” contact to be completely safe, it is generally not as risky as might be thought. People do not generally become ill from their own coliform and anal flora, as people inevitably transfer some bacteria to their mouth as a result of not washing hands after defecation, etc. Generally people live in symbiosis with their own strata of bacteria. Also, monogamous contact between people who share the same household for six months or more is less risky, as cohabitation for that period of time tends to equalize the subtypes of coliform bacteria.

It should be noted that more casual anal/oral contact is very risky as a transfer vector for a host of diseases. Or in other words if you go to a swingers club where someone gets ass fucked and you decide to suck the “top’s� cock during or after anal intercourse you put yourself at risk for numerous infections, for example hepatitis to name just one.

Safe sex doesn’t necessarily mean boring sex nor does it mean you can’t do stuff like ATM yourself. In my opinion the rule of thumb is, the more you deviate off the beaten path (and by that I mean missionary position/vaginal intercourse while wearing a rubber with your spouse) the more you gotta be willing to use your BRAIN in order to assess the situation at hand and take necessary precautions. The more you fool around with strangers (and yes, I know how much fun that is) the more risk-variables you’ll have to consider. My motto still is “just do it� but don’t let common sense go out of the window.

Appeal
Ass to mouth is an uncommon sexual practice. At least that’s what Wikipedia has to say, but I guess I’ll have to agree with that (grudgingly). Those who do practice it do so, in many cases, because of the degradation inherent in the sex act for the passive partner. Individuals who enjoy being degraded and/or dominated and those who enjoy degrading and dominating their partners during sexual intercourse are generally the only individuals who engage in ass to mouth.

Well, there are those people and then there are people who might not even realize that they’re doing it. Let me give a quick example: A friend of mine told me this Urban Myth/Urban Fact kind of story which implies that eating peanuts in a bar is like sucking ten stranger’s cocks. You know, because nobody washes their hands and then they eat the nuts, some get left over but they’ve been handled already by guys who had their dicks in hand just minutes ago. Peanut bowl gets refilled, the peanuts get older, more men touch them. You get my point. So take this example and imagine a regular couple having sex. It’s dark under the covers, he tries to find the right hole, wipes the pussy juices around a bit for better lubrication, goes back and forth over her anus (without either of them realizing it) and puts it in her pussy. So technically once the dick comes out and goes into her mouth not only is she giving a form of ATM blowjob but she’s also giving something that hasn’t even gotten a name yet. Should we call it PTATM?

Just because your asshole is hidden from view most of the time doesn’t automatically guarantee that you won’t be accidentally touching it repeatedly during all kinds of unrelated activities. I know this sounds funny, but especially during regular intercourse or finger fucking there’s just no way you’re not going to get close to the perianal region. My BF for one frequently has his thumb up my ass while fucking me from behind. But let’s get back to what Wikipedia has to say: This practice may be seen as a rare but powerful form of sexual objectification. (You bet!) It may also be practiced by those who derive sexual pleasure from doing things that are considered taboo or “extremeâ€?. - Exactly. That’s the whole point of the exercise, degradation, objectification and submission. Yummy. (Keep your eyes peeled for PART 2 of this ATM guide!)

Ok, I know that when men fantasize about getting a blowjob they don’t imagine just a quick nibble and a lick on the head of their penis, they want to throat-fuck. I also know that a satisfying blowjob does not end with a polite statement like: “Honey, please take my dick out of your mouth so I can jerk off onto a tissue.” Men want to specifically deposit their jizz in various orifices and in some cases on tits and/or faces. I am going one step further here by not only asking how to make the wife/girlfriend ingest your semen but to do so with pleasure. There are different tactics and strategies you might want to consider, I’m starting with the rough stuff (Not for weak stomachs!)

How do I make my girlfriend swallow? (continued)

1) ROUGH STUFF
First there’s the brute-force approach. (Listen carefully: I’m NOT recommending you orally or in any other way “abuseâ€? your girl, but sex is not always a cuddly affair and quite a few women actually enjoy a little dominance and rough play as long as they can trust you not to cross certain limits). What I’m trying to say is, that it is possible (not necessarily advisable) to make your girl swallow by simply stuffing your dick far down her throat while you climax, at the same time making sure she doesn’t gag or choke. You wouldn’t want this to end in a puke-fest, now would you? This may not be the approach you’re looking for, but for those who are considering this option here are some pointers to get you started. You might want to grab the back of her head to keep her in position while you shoot your load right down her throat. To counter her “withdrawal reflexâ€? (for want of a better word) - you’ll have to do some talking though. Say, or grunt, or whatever it is you do, that she’s just giving you the orgasm of a lifetime and beg her not to stop. This buys you time to keep pumping the rest of your ejaculate into her stomach while she contemplates your compliment. Just make sure to distract her and do not give her a chance to let the cum dribble out of her mouth! It’s best if you disguise the “keeping her head still” bit as loving caresses. Use one hand to press down on the back of her head while stroking her face gently with the other. It should go without saying that the ideal position for the brute-force tactic is her kneeling in front of you (that’s the one time gravity will actually make a woman’s body more pleasurable) or as an alternative, you lying on top of her, in which case you’ll only have to make sure she doesn’t turn her head to either side to let the good stuff go to waste. You might wanna use your knees. I guess it all depends on how agile you are. Again, the key word here is distraction. Flatter her, “caressâ€? her head, give her a reason to wait it out. Tell her you “love her so muchâ€?, if you can work up the energy that is.

At that point you certainly can’t be a 100% sure she’s actually swallowed all of it, but the longer you manage to stay in there the more saliva she’ll produce and since the fluids have nowhere else to go but down she won’t have much of a choice. Seal off her mouth even when your dick starts getting soft, by pressing her face and mouth onto your stomach. A nice little trick is to ask her a question like “you have a free wish now, what do you want me to do for you?� Of course she won’t be able to answer back with your pulsating dick down her throat, but the thing is that we’re all conditioned to quickly swallow what’s in our mouth when someone asks us something while we’re in the middle of eating or drinking. Just as an aside I’m mentioning the most ruthless possibility to finish off this technique. You could pinch her nose shut when you withdraw your penis from her mouth and watch her gulp down your semen before she gasps for air. Just joking of course. (Actually not, it works). No seriously, just joking. (But it does work) Ah, stop it already!

2) REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY
On to tactic or in this case rather “strategyâ€? number 2 which is a little easier on your girl’s patience and not nearly as aggressive. I call it the “Fight fire with fireâ€? strategy. (Actually I don’t, it just sounds good on paper). It involves a lot more verbal finesse though. So if your bulging biceps are your main quality as a spouse and lover simply stick to the brute force technique. Your eyes must be getting tired by now anyway. (I’m just being mean now) - The mantra for strategy number two is: “I will make my girl swallow and she will LIKE it.” Sounds impossible? It isn’t, because Britney’s got all the answers for you. It’s a simple reverse psychology trick, so listen up.
How often have you stifled a yawn when you heard women talking about sex as simply a “small partâ€? of the whole relationship-love-and-respect thingie? How often did you secretly snicker at remarks like “the stronger the LOVE the better the sexâ€?, when you thought it was exactly the other way round? How often have you wondered why women are concerned about “not being respected anymore” once they let you fuck them up the ass when you KNOW that’s where the respect is coming from? (Ok, hopefully not all of it, but be honest, that’s how the male sexuality works, right?) What I’m trying to illustrate here is that we have a serious language problem on our hands. And, yes you guessed it, it’s all about translating the nasty stuff you want and expect from your wife/girlfriend into Girl-Speak. Here’s something that simply won’t work (especially not on a 3rd date): “Open your fuckmouth you little cumbucket because I’m gonna squirt my hot man-juice down your throat and I expect you to thank me for it when I’m done.â€? See? That just doesn’t sound right to a woman’s sensitive ears. What you have to do is find images and metaphors that touch female desires. Don’t just get annoyed by what you have to endure from women, use it against them. Sugarcoat your fuck-fantasies and put a little cocktail cherry on top.

So here’s the logic: If you think “penetrationâ€? say “embracing loversâ€? instead. If you think “swallowâ€? say “closenessâ€?. If you think “ass fuckâ€?, say “exploring the boundaries of trustâ€?. I’m sure you’ve gotten my point by now. The more hard-core you fantasize the softer you have to articulate. Unless you’re one of those lucky guys blessed with a nymphomaniac girlfriend you’ll have to transform a butt-fuck into a “gentle embraceâ€?.
Let me give you a practical example. If your girl has taken contraceptive measures she’ll be more than glad to receive a hot load of sperm inside her vagina. Why? Because it serves a natural biological purpose. There’s a huge (female) desire attached to vaginal insemination. The desire for pregnancy and the possibility of actually sleeping with a man who “might just be the right one”, the “good father” is powerful. I know that’s certainly not what you’re thinking at that moment, but as much as men like to play with fire (prostitutes, affairs, STDs in exchange for instant gratification) so do women. They’re just focused on different topics and they usually don’t act on their desires as instinctively as men do. One possibility in regard to the “cum eatingâ€? question we’re addressing here would be to draw clear parallels between ejaculating into a vagina and ejaculating into the mouth. You’ve got to rewrite evolutionary biology to suit your needs and come up with romantic or should I say conservative images like “no matter which way, it always ends up in your stomach and I’ll be a warm loving part of you (and your body)â€?. You have to take HER arguments and throw them back in her face. (In a nice way). Why is anal sex for example any different than vaginal? Is she not totally opening up to you? Does she have commitment issues? You trust her, so why doesn’t she totally trust you. If anal sex is so taboo for her then let her explain why anal sex was a hugely popular form of contraception in Victorian England. Let her explain why cum eating is perverse when for many archaic cultures the swallowing of semen was the most logical way of impregnating the female spouse (- The reason we’re not extinct is pretty much coincidental I suppose). Tell her that she’s arbitrarily defining “good” and “bad” areas on her body (like the stupid erogenous zone behind her ears for example) and that you want to explore ALL of them without exception. You should also ask if she finds your most precious secretion (jizz) disgusting. That should get her into a nice dilemma. In case she says “yesâ€? tell her that you find her pussy juice delicious and that you don’t waste a drop when you go down on her. In the end, all of our secretions aren’t exactly champagne - you have to acquire a taste for them. Let her know that SHE and only SHE is the reason why the salty, sticky stuff dribbling out of her vagina turns to honey (in your head).

The main argument I’m getting to now is the “waste� argument. Be clear in your statements on how uncomfortable you are just spraying your semen onto bedspreads, into condoms and paper-tissues or whatever. Tell her you find it degrading and wasteful and that making love should differ from masturbation through the “sharing� and caring aspect. Sharing love, pleasure, orgasms, secretions. All of it. She wouldn’t accept a couple of Post-It notes as a conversation, now would she? Closeness is physical by definition.

The whole point of this 2nd strategy (to get a woman to swallow with pleasure) is that she has to get something in return. I don’t mean that in the sense of you performing some reciprocal sex act, but in a metaphysical way. The gratification for swallowing has to be and can only take place in her head. She has to feel like the greatest lover you’ve ever had for example or her experiencing a feeling of power over you would also be a nice incentive. Just imagine her silently contemplating the thought “he won’t cheat on me, because the other girls would never swallow�. If you’re lucky she might even go further and start doubting that logic by thinking “what if they DO swallow and he’d go as far as… just because I don’t�. See the dynamic in that subtle way of persuasion. Just be prepared, for she might challenge you by asking you to try and swallow your own cum to see how you like it. It has happened and you should have an answer up your sleeve once it comes to that. Either that or you could just try it.

I’m coming to the end of my little excursion into cum eating persuasion strategies but I’d like to add a little warning. There’s one thing that usually backfires when people try to spice up the sex life. DO NOT trade favors! Don’t go “yeah sure I’m going to eat your pussy for 30 minutes after you’ve swallowed my load�. It just doesn’t work, no matter what you trade. You don’t want her to “get it over with� just because the good part (for her) is coming up. Stay away from this kind of return-on-investment thinking. It kills the pleasure.

As for myself I can say, yes, I’ve been forced to swallow (not in a criminal way though, so put down the phone) and I hated it, I’ve also been throat fucked and forced to swallow and I really got off on it on lots of other occasions. I’ve swallowed to say that I loved someone; I’ve swallowed to impress and gain respect. I’ve swallowed out of fear of losing love and I’ve swallowed for money. I’ve swallowed cum from strangers I gave head to in public restrooms (definitely not recommended – although very enjoyable), I’ve swallowed cum that tasted great and I’ve swallowed cum that seemed to consist of 90% urine and 10% gunk. Eating cum is certainly a physical act but the (dis)pleasure always starts in the head. I’ve asked myself a thousand times why I do it and the simplest answer always pops up first. Because I can.